In our short series on sex and the menopause consultant gynaecologist Miss Tania Adib from shares her expert advice on navigating foreplay, intimacy, vaginal dryness and more.
Why foreplay is helpful during the menopause
Penetration doesn’t always have to be the main event (a relief to all menopausal women, everywhere). Why not try shifting the focus to other forms of intimacy such as touching and slow, indulgent foreplay?
When your children are small, sex can tend to be rushed as you try to fit it in between everything else. But, as your children become less dependent on you, you can take more time with foreplay letting yourself really relax and enjoy the sensations. This allows you and your partner to become more intimate with each other.
Tackling vaginal dryness
Many women experience some vaginal dryness as a result of a change in hormone levels that often comes with the menopause. This can lead to potentially uncomfortable or even painful intercourse.
You can help prevent this by using water or silicone-based lubricants - there are a variety of options to choose from, so experiment and find one which works best for you both.
Deepening your intimacy
Try exploring new ways of displaying affection and intimacy that make both of you feel desirable.
Using sex toys can be a great way to increase your pleasure and arousal levels, and keep everything functioning at its optimal level for you and your partner.
Alternatively, you may want to just go back to basics and kiss and cuddle which will bring you closer together.