Myself and my husband don't even have kids yet and still, sometimes, our sex life is a little lacklustre. Never bad (in fact, the sex is always tender and ends in orgasm for both of us) but when life gets busy it can go for a couple of weeks without us actually having sex.
I've never seen this as an issue, we're intimate in many ways, not just in the bedroom, and when we do have sex it feels like coming home.
However, last weekend we stumbled into a new position. Him sat on the edge of the bed, me with my legs wrapped around him and leaning forward into him. Like wrapping your legs around the back of a chair. You're both so close in this position that eye and kissing are easy and natural and bonus, the elevated position for the woman means it feels incredibly good.
Since discovering this new position we have reached a new, deeper levels of intimacy and we're having sex much more often.
The position, with its intimate feel and closeness has definitely help fan our spark back into a flame but so has the act of discovering something new together, trying a new position and discovering how good it felt was a bonding experience.
So, if you're anything like me and your sex life just needs a little pinch of oomph then try a new position, one like the above or another that takes your fancy.
It doesn't have to be wild or scary it just has to be something new and intimate that you do together.